If you’re an artist of any kind your work will be rejected by editors, curators and other gatekeepers. And each time you put it in front of the public, you expose yourself to criticism.
If you’re an entrepreneur you face rejection by (potential) customers, partners and investors. Those same people won’t hesitate to criticise you if they are unhappy.
If you’re chasing your dream job you’ll receive your share of rejection letters. And once you land the job, taking flak when things go wrong is part of the deal.
If you’re an athlete or sports player it’s a battle to get on the team. And you’ll hear about it from all sides – your coach, your team-mates and ‘supporters’ – if they think your performance isn’t up to scratch.
If you’re a campaigner for change you face inertia, opposition and hostility from everyone with an investment in the status quo. No wonder most people choose not to rock the boat.
This book provides effective ways to build resilience and deal with the rejection and criticism that come your way – based on my 16 years’ experience as a coach and creative entrepreneur.
“P.S. The chapters on the Black Box and ‘How to Fix It Next Time’ are worth the price of admission all by themselves.”
Steven Pressfield, bestselling author of
The War of Art and Turning Pro
Between them, rejection and criticism
can rob you of your dream
Many people set out on their chosen path full of hope and inspiration, only to turn back because they couldn’t deal with the emotional impact of crushing rejections and vicious criticism.
If you want to avoid joining the legions of also-rans, you’ll need to find practical, effective ways to deal with rejection and criticism.
On the surface, rejection and criticism look like external obstacles – they come from other people, so logically we should be able to brush them off and keep going.
But anyone who says ‘don’t take it so personally’ doesn’t understand what it’s like when you are hit by a major rejection or biting criticism.
At least to begin with, it’s almost impossible not to take it personally (for very good psychological reasons). To deal with rejection and criticism, you need to acknowledge the pain – and find ways to bounce back from the impact.
In short, you need to develop resilience.
Tried and tested advice from an experienced coach
In Resilience, I explain why your reactions to rejection and criticism are completely normal – and how to deal with them effectively.
Through stories from my own experience, as well as those of famous people, I will show you that you are far from alone in suffering from rejection and criticism.
And I draw on years of experience as a coach to give you practical advice that has been road-tested with hundreds of people facing similar challenges to you.
You will learn:
- Why rejection and criticism hurt so much
- Several ways you may be making rejection worse (without realising it)
- How to keep going in the face of of multiple rejections
- Why your inner critic is (potentially) your best friend
- When to ignore the critics – and when to listen
- Whether (and how) to respond to insults and abuse
- Why success is harder than it looks – and how to deal with it
This is not a theoretical book – it’s packed with practical tips and techniques you can apply to your own challenges right away.
Whether you’re just setting out, in the middle of your journey, or dealing with the unexpected challenges of success, Resilience will show you how to keep moving forward.
About Mark McGuinness
I’ve been helping clients overcome rejection, criticism and other obstacles to success since the mid-nineties. I’ve also had to deal with my own share of rejection and criticism, as a self-employed coach, psychotherapist, public speaker and writer.
I’m the author of Motivation for Creative People: How to Stay Creative While Gaining Money, Fame, and Reputation, and a co-author of the 99U bestsellers Manage Your Day-to-Day and Maximize Your Potential. I coach clients all over the world via webcam, and consult for innovative companies on several continents.
Resilience distills over 16 years’ experience of helping clients facing real-life challenges. The ideas in the book have been tried and tested in the lives of many people just like you, who are wrestling with rejection and criticism on the road to success.
Resilience will take you a few hours to read; its lessons will help you for the rest of your life.
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Foreign language editions
The Russian edition of Resilience is published in Moscow by Mann, Ivanov and Ferber.
To enquire about licensing the rights to publish Resilience in another language, you can contact the publisher here.