That’s a key question for me – it gets people out of problem-mode and into solution-mode. Action gets a lot easier when you’re clear about what you want next…

One of the things I’ve learned thats usefull in helping others is asking questions. Why do you feel this way? What was your initial motive? How would you rather this situation of turned out? Are you being honest with yourself? Being able to answer the questions usually aid the person into taking action in solving their problems. Most of the people I talk to thank me for helping them out, though really all I had to do was ask questions and on the occasion give my personal experiences.

Of course there are still gonna be the few that can answer these questions and know what they want, but still not take action. May be due to fear, unsure of what the outcome will be, or sometimes the problem really isn’t as big as they thought it was and they can go into the situation with a different take on it.

Um, I’ve spent a lifetime trying to learn to live in the moment, and now you’re telling me to step out of the moment, as an observer!?

Heh, doesn’t sound very Zen when you put it like that, does it?

I think there’s a difference though between using dissociation with awareness, as a means of putting one’s own fears and desires into perspective, and doing it compulsively, as a distraction from the present moment.

I’ve never done this – but certainly, in my coaching of others, it is usually pretty clear to me what the solutions are. Now I know why. I’m pretty sure this is why my journaling/blogging on the past is so enlightening – at least to me.

O, wad some Power the giftie gie us
To see oursels as others see us!
Robert Burns

@ Neil – Thanks!

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Good stuff.
Neil

It is easier to help others because you are mostly free of the emotional attachment to the situation.

But the opportunity to project into the future, review the movie of my life, may be just the thing to gain the insight I need.

Thanks for the post.

It’s more or less just a visualizing technique where we get the feelings of what we can have in a time when we already have it. Sounds like jumping into the future to me but nonetheless, this is some very powerful stuff.

-Mike